029: Control What You Can and Let Go of The Rest [Podcast]

Are you a control freak? I know I have those tendencies from time to time. Well, today I decided to resign from General Commander of the Universe again. Yes, I said, again.

Control what you can and let go of the rest

Seems somewhere along the way I decided to pick up the crown and cape and try to manage everything in my life. The funny thing is you can go days before you even realize you are doing it. We really do make life so much harder then we realize. We lose the mental game every day and the downward spiral happens before we know it.


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Why is it so hard to let go, and let God? The tricky part is learning the difference of being a manager and a control-freak.

A control freak…

  • Wants to manipulate every outcome to their favor
  • wants to know what is going on at all times
  • never wants surprises or the unexpected to come visit
  • wants a predictable outcome

A manager…..

  • works with what he is given
  • understands that things beyond his control will happen
  • makes the wisest decision when the unexpected does come
  • knows the results are out of his hands

Whether your burden today is physical, financial, relational, or business-related, you need to understand your limits. Limits provide freedom. The sooner that you believe that you are human and that you cannot possible control everything, the sooner you will be able to relax and take things as they come.

Controlling what you can is a constant habit and practice that you have to do on a regular basis. When your stress meter is getting high, 9 times out of 10 it is a direct result of you trying to control something.

A Simple Exercise

The Bible tells us to worry about nothing and pray about everything.  Max Lucado in his book Fearless gives a great illustration about how to handle worry. If you looked down at your arm and saw a mosquito, what would you instinctively do?

That’s right, you would swat at it, crush it, and smack it. You should do the same with worry. Treat it like that mosquito that is being a nuisance. Don’t let it stay there. Swat at it and get rid of it now!

The simple truth is that when you are trying to control everything what you are really doing is worrying.  Stop worrying and let go.

By the way, if you are looking for a job the General Commander of the Universe is vacant again, but if I were you…I would keep on walking.

Question: How do you overcome worry and stress in your life? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

    Jonathan has been blogging since 2009 and is still in awe that the Creator of the Universe desires to have a relationship with him. His passions include spending time with his kids, reading, March Madness, surprise get-a-way trips with his wife, and watching funny YouTube videos.

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    7 thoughts on “029: Control What You Can and Let Go of The Rest [Podcast]

    1. How do I overcome worry and stress in my life? Rather poorly. I’d like to say that I let it roll off my like water off a duck’s back. But instead, I let it overwhelm me until I can take a walk in nature or take a short nap.

      Once I physically recharge, I can mentally put my big boy pants on and attack the problem with baby steps. I do what I can and force myself to admit that some things won’t get done. But since I do what I can, I am then free to let the other stuff go. And then move on (making sure not to make the same mistakes going forward- or making sure to avoid the stress causing situation in the future).

    2. How do I overcome worry and stress in my life? Focus on what I have; not on what I don’t. Capitalize on what I can do; not on what I cannot. And admit without limitation that God gets to decide anyway, so why not just give it to Him in the first place.